“What do you do for work?” I hate this question. I never know how to answer it and the answer either makes me look judgemental or makes the woman asking me feel small. I have been a stay at home mom for my entire married life. I’m now a grandma and still don’t bring home a pay check. Yes, I have worked. I sold and flipped houses, ran a wedding rental company from my garage and supported my husband working long hours so he could build his career. Over the past few decades, I have seen many changes in the roles of women. When my two oldest daughters were younger, practically all my neighbours stayed at home. By the time my youngest daughter finished high school, there was a noticeable shift. I’m not saying one is better than the other, I would just like to point out that this question can be a very divisive one. If I answer, “I was a stay at home mom,” I feel like I’m telling the other woman she’s NOT a good mom if she works. There’s almost an immediate shift in the tone of the conversation. At the same time, her answer can make me feel like I’ve spent decades on the couch watching soap operas and overdoing everything in my children’s lives. There is no win. I loved staying at home with my children. I just don’t love telling people about it.